Love-Being-In-Love-With-Love

The Symposium is a philosophical text by Plato dated c. 385–370 BC. It depicts a friendly contest of extemporaneous speeches given by a group of notable men attending a banquet. The men include the philosopher Socrates, (Socrates never wrote anything), the general and political figure Alcibiades, and the comic playwright Aristophanes. The speeches are to be given in praise of Eros, who is the god of love and desire, and the son of Aphrodite. In the Symposium, Eros is recognized both as erotic love, and as a phenomenon that is capable of inspiring courage, valor, great deeds and works, and vanquishing man’s natural fear of death. It is seen as transcending its earthly origins and attaining spiritual heights. This extraordinary elevation of the concept of love raises a question of whether some of the most extreme extents of meaning might be intended as humor or farce. Eros is almost always translated as “love”, and the English word has its own varieties and ambiguities that provide additional challenges to the effort to understand the Eros of ancient Athens.

Plato wrote the following: “So ancient is the desire for one another that is implanted in us reuniting our original nature seeking to make one of two and healing the state of man. Humans originally had 2 faces, 4 arms 4 legs and they were happy like that then they defied the gods, so the gods split us in 2 as punishment, tore us away from our other halves, each of us when separated is always looking for our other half it’s our nature. When one is met with his other half the pair is lost in an amazement of love, friendship intimacy and one will not be seen out of the other’s sight the reason is human nature was once originally and we were whole, and the desire and the pursuit of the whole is called: love.”

The scientific community says that love is not emotion because you can’t see it in the face. You can, however, see hate, anger, sadness, surprise, but you can’t see love. People in relationships have a tendency to always ask their other half, “do you love me?” And the reason why is because love needs to be constantly on display through deeds. The act of having children, being married, sharing a mortgage does not denote the presence of love. More people who profess to be in love encounter more pain than those who are not in love, why is that? Love is a good feeling, don’t you agree. It’s one of those feelings you want in your life all the time, in fact, if it were possible I think most of us would love to feel the feeling called love, but somehow it only seems to last for a short while then it becomes something else. It doesn’t necessarily become hate, sometimes it just becomes less of what it is, you know when your partner is still your partner but it feels like they don’t love you as much as they did a month ago, or a year ago.

I discovered a syndrome called: “Love Being in Love with Love.” It is almost similar to the syndrome, “Ground Hog Day,” only the later doesn’t occur on a daily basis. Love being in love with love is a function used to prolong the sensation or feelings of love without total commitment. Everyone has different defense mechanisms and everyone processes rejection and negative results arising from a relationship gone bad.

John had low self-esteem resulting from the rejection of his father when he was a child. The rejection coupled with the lifestyle of a boy brought up among women, their secrets and behaviors towards men, left John almost totally untrusting not of women, but women in a relationship with him. John enjoyed women and felt he needed most desperately to always be in a relationship, but why be in a relationship if it is going to eventually lead to heartbreak? John was very handsome and very articulate, almost sociopathic only without the harming physically of animals and people. He was charming beyond charm, the quintessential man for every woman.

Through trial and error, John tried relationships first with older women, taking on the mother of one of his school friends, that ended in complete horror. He found himself bitter and resentful after that relationship, feeling somewhat used for his services rather than himself. From there John entered numerous relationships unknowingly using them as material for his research until he finally came across a lady some 33 years later. Her name was Lynda she was an attorney with her own law firm and eleven-years of post-graduate education, she was brilliant. John loved her from the beginning, and she loved him. But there was something wrong with this relationship in that John was always on an emotional rollercoaster. He had lows and highs, not of a manic-depressive, but someone who was caught in the middle, the antithesis. For John Lynda was everything and he more than loved her he respected her. In time John told Lynda everything about himself, this confession allowed him to finally breathe, but it left him feeling that he had revealed too much of himself and that the realization of him would be far more scrutinized than people let on when you admit the truth to them.

So, John found a reason to end the relationship after 2 years, but he took with him the exact knowledge of what he needed in order to have a wonderful relationship, and that was “Love being in love with love.” So, whenever John found someone, he poured his heart into it, he romanced and loved until the woman could not battle herself and so had to surrender to the impossible act of love that may never come again. And with this heightened feeling of euphoric love, John moved from woman to woman as soon as the feeling of love began to dwindle to a smoldering ember, and he would start this process over again ever ensuring that he would feel love always.

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