The world has become more sophisticated and the age group today are becoming wealthier, flashier, and more prone to interchanging relationships as if it were garments. The ability to quickly secure a relationship is now only a text message away, a tweet or Face Book friend request. There are Match.com, Tinder, Zoosk and many more that I the older person is barely familiar. The reasons for being in a relationship are as varied as there are fish in the sea. Often people don’t truthfully disclose exactly what it is they are looking for, and if many did they’d find themselves perpetually alone. Outside of love, relationships are sought for money, security, sex, validation, companionship and hundreds of other reasons all falling under the umbrella of love.
So,why do people lie about what they truly want in a relationship? Why can’t people just come out and say what it is exactly they are looking for from the opposite sex? I think people lie because people cannot accept the truth. People want to hear the fairy tale, live the dream, believe that they are desired by the opposite sex for attributes inherent to that particular person, and believe that some classical moral reasoning associated with chivalry is the tip of the iceberg. Let’s face it, most men don’t want to be with a woman so he can support her financially, work hard just to give it away for the sake of love, following some life long societal tradition of mans obligation to woman, rather he just wants the convenience of having her around to satisfy his ego and his sexual cravings. But there are other things as well so don’t get upset by the truth.
And women are not always in desire of a man for love, women want security, a man to protect and provide for her and the little family they’ve created together. Women don’t want to be strapped to some guys bed, made to feel like a sex tool, cooking and cleaning all in the name of love, what a sham the human kind has been served. People cannot even be honest with each other for fear of being alone. Not saying that women don’t want love.
So basically people will continue to lie and live under the pretense that love is all that matters. And they’ll call that truth, because people believe that truth has versions. And that when the fire of passion is extinguished they keep on living in a relationship because love is a choice, marriage and relationships are a choice and that time has proven we are capable of being and doing anything. But honestly people should be able to meet someone go through the ritual of dating, do what it takes to impress and charm the object of your desire and then say “I’d like to make love to you,” all without being made to feel like you have just committed the biggest offense in the world. Or being a woman say “I am looking for a man who can help take care of me and my three kids, the last shit left us footing the bill,” This is what I call complete honesty. Rather than go through the pretense of being in a relationship for love and doing all the things to circuitously arrive at a point you already had figured out in the beginning. If you can begin a relationship with complete honesty then the chances of that relationship lasting is greatly improved.